Many people think that by having an affair they will find the happiness with someone else that they can’t find with you. Sometimes this is true, but mostly affairs and infidelity lead to broken hearts and pain for each person. If you love your wife or girlfriend and suspect them of having an affair, here are some simple signs of infidelity to look for. These aren’t the only ones, but should cover a lot of different aspects of their cheating.

• Does your wife or girlfriend all of a sudden want to go on birth control such as the pill? Do they begin to purchase condoms even if you haven’t used them in sometime?
• Does she spend a lot of time online in chat rooms or playing online games? Is there excessive emails or new email accounts? Does she rapidly click on or offline when you come into the room?
• Does your wife go outside or to another room when talking to her “friends”? Is she being secretive about her phone calls or phone records?
• Is there new clothing or lingerie in her closet or wardrobe that she doesn’t wear for you? Is there new jewelry that you didn’t buy and she can’t explain?
• Does she smell like other men’s cologne when she comes home from work or going out with her “girlfriends”?
• Is she anxious to leave you to run errands or go out shopping? Is she spending extra hours at work or for hobbies?
• Has she declined sex or seemed more interested than usual in sexual contact with you?
• Does she seem to compare you or nit-pick more about habits or behaviors that never bothered her before?
• Is she distant or not paying attention to you like she used to be?
• Have her friends noticed any change in her or voiced any concerns?

While no two affairs are the same, no person will have or display the same signs of infidelity that another would. If you suspect your wife or girlfriend is cheating on you, there are many different options that you should consider. You can visit our resources page for how to catch a cheating spouse for more information and ways to help you.

While there is no one single “smoking gun” way to know, other than catching him in the act, here are some ways to help find out the truth in your relationship.

• Set a trap. 99.9% of the time cheating men will cheat when their partner is out of town or when the cheater is traveling. Tell your partner you are leaving for the weekend and then wait and watch. If he doesn’t come home all night, he could be at another woman’s house or at a hotel. Otherwise, he may bring her to his or “your” house. Remember the old saying….”when the cat’s away, the mouse will play.” It’s very true.
• Monitor his cell phone. Note whether he always turns off his cell phone when he’s with you or if his returned calls to you are extremely delayed without verified reasons. If you have access to his cell phone bill, watch for repeated calls or calls of long duration and the times. Check his cell phone logs. Press the re-dial on the phone or *69. This is an effective way to find out who they have been calling.
• Place a fake profile on-line. Set your partner up by placing a fake profile on-line and see if he takes the bait.
• Get one of your girlfriends that he doesn’t know to hit on him with a recording device in her purse and listen to his response.
• Be aware of any close platonic relationships. Most friends will not approve of the cheater’s ways but will cover for them. Some friends will actually help the cheater by providing an alibi for the cheater. The cheater’s friend will assist the cheater out of loyalty stemming from a friendship.
• Monitor his computer usage. Note if he makes frequent visits to free e-mail accounts (i.e., hotmail, msn, yahoo, gmail, hushmail, etc…). If you suspect that your partner is involved in an online affair, install a keystroke logger on your computer which logs every key stroke. It is not legal to install a logger onto someone else’s computer, so make sure you own it. Make note of excessive Internet usage especially late at night or in chat rooms. Check his Internet web browser history (cache) for unusual websites.
• Make your bed. If you suspect your partner is bringing his affair to your home, make the bed a special way and make note if it’s not made identically to the way you left it when you return.
• Monitor your partner’s driving habits for a month. Watch for increase in gas receipts and monitor the car’s odometer to see if there are extra-unexplained miles on the car. Monitor the time they leave for work and the time they come home. By keeping a calendar and noting the times, this should help you establish a pattern. If your mate claims to be working late, check paycheck stubs to verify this overtime. Your partner explains a late return home as a result of having to drive out of town on business, but yet the mileage on the car indicates less than ten mile driven.
• Check all credit card statements, ATM withdrawals, receipts and check stubs for any unusual transactions. Make note of any strange dates and times. Check income tax returns revealing unexplained travel and business expense deductions.
• Place a GPS tracking device in the car. They are usually no larger than a pack of gum and will track anywhere his automobile goes but can be pricey. Make sure you research any legal ramifications before you decide to do this.

These are just some of the signs of infidelity and ways to catch a cheating man. If you suspect that your man is cheating on you, there are many options for you. Visit our resources page to learn more about how to catch a cheating spouse and other options.